If you could read a transcript of the things you say to yourself in the privacy of your own mind, would you pleased with how it read? If you saw in black and white the words you use in your own stream of consciousness, would you be pleased by the caring, encouraging way you treat yourself, or would you be dismayed at the harsh, perhaps even abusive way you approach your life?
Learning how to “read” your own internal messages is a useful skill to develop. The next time you forget to do something, or the next time you say something you wished you hadn’t said, listen to the words you use when you talk to yourself about it. Are you saying things like: “Everyone makes mistakes. I usually do a better job. I’ll do better next time.” Or are you berating yourself with messages like: “You’re an idiot! You always do that! Why are you so hopeless?”